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It’s Better Wetter! Dear Lucy,Alright, so when I have sex, I can never (and I mean never) get wet enough for it to actually be pleasing. I’ve had a fair amount of sex, but it’s always spanned out over time. I really want to use lube, but I honestly don’t understand how to use it, and I feel like it will be incredibly strange asking to use it. Can you give me some lube-related advice? Indeed I can! First of all, let’s discuss your wetness, and what it is you call “sex.” If you mean penis-vagina intercourse, it is highly advisable to do some things to get your vagina ready for such an action. There are many reasons that people praise foreplay, one of the most important of which being making a lady’s vag moist. Stimulation of your vagina makes you feel good, and lets your vagina know that possible penetration is coming up soon. Having your clitoris and vaginal lips touched, licked, sucked on, etc, can make your vag open up, feel more sensitive, and start to produce natural vaginal fluid. You say, however, that you never get wet enough. Perhaps you need more foreplay, in the form of mainly oral sex. If your partner goes down on you for a good while, this can get you super excited, causing you to produce more vagina juices. At the same time, your partner’s saliva will be getting all over your nether regions, making you even wetter. (If that sounds gross, get over yourself. This is a sex blog.)If not enough lube is happening the natural way, then it is way ok to get some wetness-in-a-bottle. I find that condoms tend to dry you out more quickly, rubbing away your own natural moisture. Use lubricated condoms as a first step. Then, add more lube!Muy importante!!: Do not use oil-based lubes with condoms. This makes the latex material that condoms are made of break down, holes are created, prophylactic now is useless. Any respectable sex shop will make you’re aware of this when you’re purchasing lube, but if they don’t say anything, double check that your lube is WATER-BASED before you buy.Choosing a water-based lube is pretty fun, actually. There’s a lot of brands out there, and some sex shops let you put a little on your fingers and rub it around to feel the consistency. If you’re rubbing the lube between your fingers for just a couple minutes before your fingers feel dry, look for another brand that stays wet for longer. You can even try flavored lubes! (But only choose SUGAR-FREE flavored lubes, as sugar can cause yeast infections. I’m serious.)Now, how do you use lubrication? Well, it’s pretty simple: squirt about a quarter-sized amount into your hand, then spread your legs and rub it all over your vag; clit, lips, inside too. Your partner can also do this for you, which can be pretty sexy. I advise squirting it into your hand first, because straight lube onto your vag can feel shockingly cold for a sec (even though the lube’s room temp, your crotch is hotter by far). Next, CLOSE THE BOTTLE of lube before losing it in the sheets, as you don’t want to find a sticky puddle in the bed later. Yuckola.Then, try out some intercourse and see how it goes. The dude can rub lube on his cock, too, for double lube action! Apply more lube when needed, and try different brands to see what works best for ya. I say go for “Hydrasmooth” brand, if you can find it.As for “feeling incredibly strange” asking to use lube, don’t ask: tell. Have lube in reach by your bed, and bring a small bottle with you if you’re having a grown-up sleepover. Then, post-foreplay, if you’re not feeling wet enough, grab your trusty bottle of wetness while your dude rolls on a condom. Say, “Here, let’s use some lube. It makes sex feel really good for me.” Then apply it yourself, or have him do it. Any guy worth being in bed with you will make YOUR good feelings a priority, and he’ll be happy to oblige. If not, kick his dry ass out of bed.xoxo,Lucy

It’s Better Wetter!


Dear Lucy,
Alright, so when I have sex, I can never (and I mean never) get wet enough for it to actually be pleasing. I’ve had a fair amount of sex, but it’s always spanned out over time. I really want to use lube, but I honestly don’t understand how to use it, and I feel like it will be incredibly strange asking to use it. Can you give me some lube-related advice? 

Indeed I can! First of all, let’s discuss your wetness, and what it is you call “sex.” If you mean penis-vagina intercourse, it is highly advisable to do some things to get your vagina ready for such an action. There are many reasons that people praise foreplay, one of the most important of which being making a lady’s vag moist. Stimulation of your vagina makes you feel good, and lets your vagina know that possible penetration is coming up soon. Having your clitoris and vaginal lips touched, licked, sucked on, etc, can make your vag open up, feel more sensitive, and start to produce natural vaginal fluid.

You say, however, that you never get wet enough. Perhaps you need more foreplay, in the form of mainly oral sex. If your partner goes down on you for a good while, this can get you super excited, causing you to produce more vagina juices. At the same time, your partner’s saliva will be getting all over your nether regions, making you even wetter. (If that sounds gross, get over yourself. This is a sex blog.)

If not enough lube is happening the natural way, then it is way ok to get some wetness-in-a-bottle. I find that condoms tend to dry you out more quickly, rubbing away your own natural moisture. Use lubricated condoms as a first step. Then, add more lube!

Muy importante!!: Do not use oil-based lubes with condoms. This makes the latex material that condoms are made of break down, holes are created, prophylactic now is useless. Any respectable sex shop will make you’re aware of this when you’re purchasing lube, but if they don’t say anything, double check that your lube is WATER-BASED before you buy.

Choosing a water-based lube is pretty fun, actually. There’s a lot of brands out there, and some sex shops let you put a little on your fingers and rub it around to feel the consistency. If you’re rubbing the lube between your fingers for just a couple minutes before your fingers feel dry, look for another brand that stays wet for longer. You can even try flavored lubes! (But only choose SUGAR-FREE flavored lubes, as sugar can cause yeast infections. I’m serious.)

Now, how do you use lubrication? Well, it’s pretty simple: squirt about a quarter-sized amount into your hand, then spread your legs and rub it all over your vag; clit, lips, inside too. Your partner can also do this for you, which can be pretty sexy. I advise squirting it into your hand first, because straight lube onto your vag can feel shockingly cold for a sec (even though the lube’s room temp, your crotch is hotter by far).

Next, CLOSE THE BOTTLE of lube before losing it in the sheets, as you don’t want to find a sticky puddle in the bed later. Yuckola.
Then, try out some intercourse and see how it goes. The dude can rub lube on his cock, too, for double lube action! Apply more lube when needed, and try different brands to see what works best for ya. I say go for “Hydrasmooth” brand, if you can find it.

As for “feeling incredibly strange” asking to use lube, don’t ask: tell. Have lube in reach by your bed, and bring a small bottle with you if you’re having a grown-up sleepover. Then, post-foreplay, if you’re not feeling wet enough, grab your trusty bottle of wetness while your dude rolls on a condom. Say, “Here, let’s use some lube. It makes sex feel really good for me.” Then apply it yourself, or have him do it. Any guy worth being in bed with you will make YOUR good feelings a priority, and he’ll be happy to oblige. If not, kick his dry ass out of bed.

xoxo,
Lucy

4 October 12
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