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Bag It Up Dear Lucy, I’m thinking about having sex with my boyfriend. If he wears a condom, I wear a female condom, and I go on birth control, do you think I’d be safe from pregnancy? We’re both virgins so I’m not worried about STDs. Whoa whoa whoa- no double bagging! Do not wear a male condom and a female condom at the same time! These two types of contraceptives are not meant to be used together. The friction of the condoms rubbing on each other can actually cause the latex to break down, and holes could be torn in the condoms. And that is certainly the opposite of what you’re going for. I know it’s your first time and I’m stoked to see that you and your boyfriend are all set to take the proper precautions. But you don’t have to overdo it. If you’re on hormonal birth control- like the pill or the ring- you’re already 99% protected from pregnancy. Using condoms (female or male style) is a great way to double protect yourselves. If you’ll only be reassured by using a third option as well, go for condoms with spermicidal lubricant, or get a separate tube of spermicide lube. Another type of safe sex is educated sex. Read about sex in many forums (books, magazines, blogs, etc), and discuss with your boyfriend how you want to go about things. Figure out what size condoms will fit his hard penis correctly (too large or too small= not as effective). Discuss birth control options with your doctor. Get some water-based lube. Also, be informed about STDs/STIs. Not to scare you, but there are some very common STIs that a person can contract before ever having sex, like herpes and HPV. These really aren’t the end of the world, and most sexually active people have one or both of these viruses at some point in their lives. In any case, even if you and your bf are virgins, it’s a good idea to order the whole menu of STI tests before you and he get down and dirty. So, be informed, educated, and responsible, and I think that’ll do in terms of keeping pregnancy at bay. Safety first! Lucy

Bag It Up

Dear Lucy,

I’m thinking about having sex with my boyfriend. If he wears a condom, I wear a female condom, and I go on birth control, do you think I’d be safe from pregnancy? We’re both virgins so I’m not worried about STDs.

Whoa whoa whoa- no double bagging! Do not wear a male condom and a female condom at the same time! These two types of contraceptives are not meant to be used together. The friction of the condoms rubbing on each other can actually cause the latex to break down, and holes could be torn in the condoms. And that is certainly the opposite of what you’re going for.

I know it’s your first time and I’m stoked to see that you and your boyfriend are all set to take the proper precautions. But you don’t have to overdo it. If you’re on hormonal birth control- like the pill or the ring- you’re already 99% protected from pregnancy. Using condoms (female or male style) is a great way to double protect yourselves. If you’ll only be reassured by using a third option as well, go for condoms with spermicidal lubricant, or get a separate tube of spermicide lube.

Another type of safe sex is educated sex. Read about sex in many forums (books, magazines, blogs, etc), and discuss with your boyfriend how you want to go about things. Figure out what size condoms will fit his hard penis correctly (too large or too small= not as effective). Discuss birth control options with your doctor. Get some water-based lube.

Also, be informed about STDs/STIs. Not to scare you, but there are some very common STIs that a person can contract before ever having sex, like herpes and HPV. These really aren’t the end of the world, and most sexually active people have one or both of these viruses at some point in their lives. In any case, even if you and your bf are virgins, it’s a good idea to order the whole menu of STI tests before you and he get down and dirty.

So, be informed, educated, and responsible, and I think that’ll do in terms of keeping pregnancy at bay.

Safety first!

Lucy

22 November 8
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