And then there’s this guy…
Dear Lucy,
I need advice. My problem: I’m very sexually attracted to my cousin. She’s 18; I’m 30. I see her often. She’s a nice girl, but a little naive, which makes my attraction stronger because I know I could probably get away with it. I have no romantic feelings for her, it’s purely sexual and it takes everything in me to not pursue her behind our family’s back. A) Does it matter that she’s my cousin? B) If I go for it will I go to hell? I mean, I already fantasize about her, so am I doomed anyway?
Dear Lucy,
Awhile ago I asked for your advice about my attraction to my cousin. I’m thinking of asking her to a movie this weekend and then going for it. I’ll wear protection, and I can get past the taboo thing, in fact I think it fuels my attraction, but is there any other reason why I should reconsider? Or, on the other hand, any advice on how to make it a sure thing?
Ah fuck, really? Do I really have to answer this question? I mean, when I received the first question, I wasn’t really that into answering it, to be honest. But then I got the follow up question… and, well, I feel like I have to answer now. Even though I think this whole thing might be fake.
No, it is not OK for you to fuck your cousin. Incest is a taboo for many reasons, and though you say you can “get past the taboo thing,” that doesn’t mean you should. I recognize that such a taboo can be a real turn on. Incest is the subject of many erotic stories and porn scenarios. But those things are fictional because people should not actually act on those impulses in real life. If you need to get your rocks off while thinking of a family member, maybe a girlfriend or other non-related sexual partner will be into some role-playing games with you, wherein she pretends to be your cousin. Or you can use porn or erotica with taboo themes as your outlet. These things are ok to do. Real sex with a real family member is not.
It really creeps me out that you say your cousin is “naive, which makes my attraction stronger because I know I could probably get away with it.” Your age difference is already a delicate issue; it is easier to take advantage of a younger woman, and to convince her that something isn’t wrong when it really is. The girl is only 18, and taking advantage of her naivety is something that could negatively impact her for the rest of her life.
Be a good man and drop the idea. Forever.
I pride myself on being open to all kinds of sexuality. I believe all people have the right to happy, interesting, comfortable, and safe sex lives. But there are some places where I draw the line, and this is one of those places.
Lucy
