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Talk Dirty To Me Dear Lucy, I never know what to say when intimate with my man. I want to break the silence and heat things up, but I always draw a blank. Any advice on how to talk dirty? Talking dirty is one of those things that is really hard to get started without feeling awkward. But once you get the ball rolling, it will enhance any sexual experience.I think the easiest way to get into dirty talkin’ with your lover is to start out with the truth: do you like what your bedmate is doing? Does it feel good? Then say so! A simple, “that feels good” is a good place to begin your dirty talking escapades. As things progress, words can easily be added onto the phrase; try, “that feels REALLY good,” or even, “that feels really FUCKING good!” Seriously, it may sound silly when you’re reading these words all alone, but actually hearing them will majorly turn on your partner. Everyone like to know that they’re doing the right things in bed, and a little confirmation can go a long way. In a similar vein, I am fond of the “OH’s.” Many common words can be made into excellent dirty-talk terms if they are prefixed with “oh.” Begin with some sexy moaning of “oh” all alone, then add, little by little, some of these old favorites: “oh YES,” “oh GOD,” “OH my god,” “oh YEEEAAHH,” “oh FUCK,” “oh (insert name of lover here).” Of course, when you get to that last one, be sure that you know the name of your lover, or it could lead to a sticky situation. And not the good kind of sticky.When you have mastered the above, you may be ready to move on to specifics. Think to yourself, what is it specifically that is making me feel so good at this moment? Is it your lover’s tongue on your clit? Or his cock in your pussy? Or her biting your neck? Whatever it is, tell your partner exactly what it is and why it’s so great. For instance, “Oh, yeah! I love to feel your tongue on me there! It feels really fucking good!” You may also want to try dirty talking as a way of instructing your partner. I adhere to the rule that all sex partners should communicate often, and I tell my lovers what I like, and how and where I want it. But there’s no reason to let this stop the flow of things. For instance, “Oh, yeah! I love to feel your tongue on me there! It feels really fucking good! [then continue with] Now put your fingers in me, and slap my ass a little harder… Mm, yeah baby!” A good partner will appreciate the info from you, and hopefully they’ll let you know what they like in a similar manner. Reciprocation in bed is always important, and you can dirty-talk your way into finding out what your partner likes, as well. Simply ask, “Do you like that, baby?” or “What do you want me to do to you?” And compliment your partner often: “Damn, you look sexy!” or “God, you’re good at that!” These are sweet, encouraging things to hear, and exciting to think about later. Then there is fantasy talk. Most likely, you aren’t going to be fucking your school nurse, or your uncle, or an officer of the law, or an evil enchantress. But with dirty talking, you and your lovers can become any of these entities, and so much more! Even if you aren’t into full-on role playing, with costumes and the like, just turn down the lights and pretend, for a little while, that your wildest dreams are coming to fruition. Examples? Let’s see… “You failed the test, you bad little girl. Now, if you want to get a better grade, you’ll have to come over here for a private tutoring session…” You’ll have to take it from there.Your tone of voice is also important to consider. You don’t want to sound like a research scientist, or a bored teenager. Whisper things into your lover’s ear (which also feels sexy; I personally get goosebumps when my ear is whispered into), and put plenty of moaning and gasping in between phrases. If you’re worried about sounding dorky, give yourself some time to perfect your sexy-voice.  Practice moans and phrases when you’re alone in your car or an elevator or the shower. If no one can hear you at first, you’ll feel less self-conscious. So, I guess the key is to feel comfortable. I highly encourage giggling in bed, but try to avoid laughing outright when your lover says some crazy dirty thing to you. Be open, and daring. And if all else fails, just say “OH” over and over again until something better comes into your head.Xoxo, LucyWhat do YOU like to hear or say in bed?

Talk Dirty To Me

Dear Lucy,
I never know what to say when intimate with my man. I want to break the silence and heat things up, but I always draw a blank. Any advice on how to talk dirty?


Talking dirty is one of those things that is really hard to get started without feeling awkward. But once you get the ball rolling, it will enhance any sexual experience.

I think the easiest way to get into dirty talkin’ with your lover is to start out with the truth: do you like what your bedmate is doing? Does it feel good? Then say so! A simple, “that feels good” is a good place to begin your dirty talking escapades. As things progress, words can easily be added onto the phrase; try, “that feels REALLY good,” or even, “that feels really FUCKING good!” Seriously, it may sound silly when you’re reading these words all alone, but actually hearing them will majorly turn on your partner. Everyone like to know that they’re doing the right things in bed, and a little confirmation can go a long way.

In a similar vein, I am fond of the “OH’s.” Many common words can be made into excellent dirty-talk terms if they are prefixed with “oh.” Begin with some sexy moaning of “oh” all alone, then add, little by little, some of these old favorites: “oh YES,” “oh GOD,” “OH my god,” “oh YEEEAAHH,” “oh FUCK,” “oh (insert name of lover here).” Of course, when you get to that last one, be sure that you know the name of your lover, or it could lead to a sticky situation. And not the good kind of sticky.

When you have mastered the above, you may be ready to move on to specifics. Think to yourself, what is it specifically that is making me feel so good at this moment? Is it your lover’s tongue on your clit? Or his cock in your pussy? Or her biting your neck? Whatever it is, tell your partner exactly what it is and why it’s so great. For instance, “Oh, yeah! I love to feel your tongue on me there! It feels really fucking good!”

You may also want to try dirty talking as a way of instructing your partner. I adhere to the rule that all sex partners should communicate often, and I tell my lovers what I like, and how and where I want it. But there’s no reason to let this stop the flow of things. For instance, “Oh, yeah! I love to feel your tongue on me there! It feels really fucking good! [then continue with] Now put your fingers in me, and slap my ass a little harder… Mm, yeah baby!” A good partner will appreciate the info from you, and hopefully they’ll let you know what they like in a similar manner.

Reciprocation in bed is always important, and you can dirty-talk your way into finding out what your partner likes, as well. Simply ask, “Do you like that, baby?” or “What do you want me to do to you?” And compliment your partner often: “Damn, you look sexy!” or “God, you’re good at that!” These are sweet, encouraging things to hear, and exciting to think about later.

Then there is fantasy talk. Most likely, you aren’t going to be fucking your school nurse, or your uncle, or an officer of the law, or an evil enchantress. But with dirty talking, you and your lovers can become any of these entities, and so much more! Even if you aren’t into full-on role playing, with costumes and the like, just turn down the lights and pretend, for a little while, that your wildest dreams are coming to fruition. Examples? Let’s see… “You failed the test, you bad little girl. Now, if you want to get a better grade, you’ll have to come over here for a private tutoring session…” You’ll have to take it from there.

Your tone of voice is also important to consider. You don’t want to sound like a research scientist, or a bored teenager. Whisper things into your lover’s ear (which also feels sexy; I personally get goosebumps when my ear is whispered into), and put plenty of moaning and gasping in between phrases. If you’re worried about sounding dorky, give yourself some time to perfect your sexy-voice.  Practice moans and phrases when you’re alone in your car or an elevator or the shower. If no one can hear you at first, you’ll feel less self-conscious.

So, I guess the key is to feel comfortable. I highly encourage giggling in bed, but try to avoid laughing outright when your lover says some crazy dirty thing to you. Be open, and daring. And if all else fails, just say “OH” over and over again until something better comes into your head.

Xoxo, Lucy

What do YOU like to hear or say in bed?

28 June 16
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  1. succubushunter answered: My name. Definitely my name.
  2. muffinvsworld answered: I’ve always been a big fan of ” yes ” ” now” “fuck yes” ” FUCK. YES” and the ever popular ” FUCKYESOHMYGODTHATSITIMCOMING!”
  3. norma-j-baker answered: something that turns me on is hearing that they’re about to cum. It shows me that I’m doing SOMETHING right :)
  4. canuseeme answered: I tend to say sweet things like, “You’re the only one for me” or the slightly more advanced “oh, only you can fuck me like this!!”
  5. wheredatfunkylovecatat answered: Dinosaur noises and all things unicorn. nothing drives me crazier than a beautiful woman in an elegant dress talking some dirty dino smut.
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