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Virgin Week: Strangers in the Night Dear Lucy,So I’m a virgin, but I hate the idea of it. I already met some random guy and I plan to lose my virginity to him. Is it weird that I’d rather lose my virginity to a complete stranger than someone I know or have dated? No, I don’t think it’s weird. Sure, it’s not the typical story- most people I know of have/had sex for the first time with a friend or partner. You seem to also recognize that. But that doesn’t mean that it’s necessarily the “right” way to go. For some, losing your virginity is a huge, emotional event. Others (like you) just want to get the damn thing over with and get on with their lives without this big V hanging over their heads. And that is a perfectly OK attitude to have, as long as you’re honest with yourself, and proceed somewhat cautiously.Really, it depends on who this “random guy” is. Is he someone you met at a house party, like an acquaintance of one of your friends? If so, make sure you have a friend who can vouch for this stranger’s non-creepitude. It’s always good to know that there’s somebody out there who can confirm this dude’s not a serial killer.If Rando is some guy from a bar (Or bowling alley? The park? Not sure if you’re old enough to drink…), or a site like Craigslist, I would proceed with a good amount of caution. Go on a bona fide date first (not at either one of your houses), and get a feel of his vibe. If he’s trying to rush you back to a more private location before you’re ready, he might not be a good choice for your deflowerer. Also, tell a discreet friend what you’re doing and where you’re going, and set up a time to call him/her during the date, so your friend knows you’re safe.No matter who your #1 Stranger is, the Grand Slam Guide’s rules still apply (see previous post). Discuss STIs with this guy before you go through with it, and be sure to use protection. Go as slow as you want, and it is totally OK to stop if you’re not feeling good about the whole thing.And if any of your friends give you shit, tell them to suck your proverbial balls.Xoxo, Lucy

Virgin Week: Strangers in the Night

Dear Lucy,

So I’m a virgin, but I hate the idea of it. I already met some random guy and I plan to lose my virginity to him. Is it weird that I’d rather lose my virginity to a complete stranger than someone I know or have dated?

No, I don’t think it’s weird. Sure, it’s not the typical story- most people I know of have/had sex for the first time with a friend or partner. You seem to also recognize that. But that doesn’t mean that it’s necessarily the “right” way to go. For some, losing your virginity is a huge, emotional event. Others (like you) just want to get the damn thing over with and get on with their lives without this big V hanging over their heads. And that is a perfectly OK attitude to have, as long as you’re honest with yourself, and proceed somewhat cautiously.

Really, it depends on who this “random guy” is. Is he someone you met at a house party, like an acquaintance of one of your friends? If so, make sure you have a friend who can vouch for this stranger’s non-creepitude. It’s always good to know that there’s somebody out there who can confirm this dude’s not a serial killer.

If Rando is some guy from a bar (Or bowling alley? The park? Not sure if you’re old enough to drink…), or a site like Craigslist, I would proceed with a good amount of caution. Go on a bona fide date first (not at either one of your houses), and get a feel of his vibe. If he’s trying to rush you back to a more private location before you’re ready, he might not be a good choice for your deflowerer. Also, tell a discreet friend what you’re doing and where you’re going, and set up a time to call him/her during the date, so your friend knows you’re safe.

No matter who your #1 Stranger is, the Grand Slam Guide’s rules still apply (see previous post). Discuss STIs with this guy before you go through with it, and be sure to use protection. Go as slow as you want, and it is totally OK to stop if you’re not feeling good about the whole thing.

And if any of your friends give you shit, tell them to suck your proverbial balls.

Xoxo, Lucy

29 July 5
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