HAPPY 2012!

New Years Resolutions for Everyone Who Likes Sex

Last year, I came up with 3 simple resolutions for my readers and their lovers:

1. Communicate

2. Be Adventurous

3. Use Protection

Well, I don’t think I want to change those resolutions, cause they are all important, and I believe that we should all strive to stick to all three. Or get on it now, and start resolving to do all three, if you haven’t been already. Read 2011’s entire post here to get the details on why you should adhere to communication, adventure, and protection for all.

However, it is a new year, a new beginning, and time to add a few more resolutions to our sex lives. Here’s what I got for y’all this year:

4. Shop Local

I’ve been on a huge local kick this year. Purchasing things within your community is a great idea: your money goes right back into the region where you live, which, in this fucked-up economic time we’re living in, is a good thing. So, why stop at farmer’s markets and book stores? Buy local at SEX STORES, too! Sure, it’s easy to purchase sex toys, lingerie, porn, and whatever else you need online. However, that money’s going to a faceless computer, not your well-meaning, sex-positive neighbor! You may be shy to go and buy stuff in person, but this is a hurdle worth overcoming. I, personally, love talking with the clerks at adult stores. There’s something so refreshing about chatting it up in public about dildos and lube, when in most places it would be totally inapprope to bring up such subjects.

I plan to take some time this year to write up a little something about many of the sex shops in Chicago, like I did recently for The Erotic Warehouse. I’ll keep you posted on the greatest spots to stock up on all things silicone and leather!

5. Use Technology Wisely

We’re learning more and more about the impact that technology can have on one’s personal life. It seems like each week we hear another article on sexting gone wrong, whether for a teenager or a senator (or both! ew). It is important to be mindful about the ways that your privacy can be compromised due to the ever-developing world of phones, cameras, and networking capabilities. Basically, don’t send naked pictures to anyone you don’t absolutely 100% trust. Don’t leave digital nakey pix on your phone, camera, or any portable devices. Don’t look at sexy stuff at work. Use common sense to protect yourself and those you are involved with.

6. Compliment your Bedmate

This is part of general communication, but also something I’d like to address specifically. It is important to tell your main squeeze what you like about them. The compliments you give them can be about anything: the way they look, smell, dress, smile, or laugh. Things they do well in bed, or an interesting point they brought up in a political discussion at a recent dinner party. Better yet, compliment her/him on a variety of things during the time you spend together. It will make him/her feel secure, comfortable, and more self-confident. She/he will feel happier around you, and will hopefully return the favor and say some nice things about you, too.

Well, my darlings, those are my thoughts on the start of the new year, and the ways to best keep your relationships happy and healthy. I hope 2012 is good one for you and yours!

xoxo,

Lucy

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HAPPY 2011!

New Year’s Resolutions for Everyone Who Likes Sex:

1. Communication:

I can’t stress this enough. Tell your lovers what you like in bed, and satisfaction is much more likely to come your way. If he’s down there, licking away at a spot that is not quite your clit, you can’t just lie there hoping he’ll move up. You’ll never climax, and he’ll get a tongue cramp. A gentle “yeah, higher baby,” could do the trick, and then you’ll both be happy! Talking to each other kindly and candidly helps in every aspect of romantic and sexual relationships.

2. Be Adventurous:

You don’t have to be 100% kinkster 24/7, but what’s the point of vanilla sex all year long? If you’re titillated by some taboo that you’ve never tried, don’t be afraid to tell your bedmate(s) about it. Chances are your partner has something creative in mind for your bedroom activities as well. There’s no harm in trying; at worst, you won’t dig it and you don’t have to try it again. At best, you’ll broaden your horizons to have even more fun in bed! If you’re still scared, just trust me: someone out there has a crazier kink than you do.

3. Use Protection:

I know, blah blah, cliche, duh Lucy. But seriously, I know how damn easy it is to get wrapped up in the moment. Your condoms are in your purse across the room, you’re in a swimming pool, your period just ended… I’ve used all those excuses and more. If you don’t have the proper protection, just don’t have sex! Make out for a awhile, wait for the morning milk/newspaper/rubbers run, or use your hands to get each other off. Avoid engaging in the riskier sex acts, because one night of risky sex is just not worth the worry and the possible consequences.

Yeah, sure, there’s more, but I think these are the big 3 to live by for all sexually active people. Start the new year right for a fucking excellent and sexy 2011!

xoxo,

Lucy

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