Wet and Wild

Hey Lucy,
I’m not sure if you’ve answered this before, but I was wondering if there’s a safe way to have sex in water? I wasn’t sure if condoms still would work or not.
Thanks! 

Good question! I’m glad you’re researching this, before just going out and trying it. I remember in high school when two of my classmates devirginized each other in a hot tub on our senior trip (scandalous!). The girl told me about it, and I asked her if she was worried about getting pregnant. She said, “No, he came really fast, and it was in water, so it should be fine, right?”

My answer was, “What?!” because neither “coming fast” nor “having sex in water” prevent pregnancy in the least. Or sexually transmitted anythings, for that matter. And that story, folks, is honest to god one of the reasons behind my becoming a sex advice lady. So I can hopefully prevent people from making mistakes in hot tubs (and beyond!). On to your question…

I have tried water sex a few times, but never with condoms. If you’re engaging in safe sex for purely non-pregnancy-causing purposes, I would suggest another form of more reliable birth control for your extra wet adventures, ‘cause a condom is not going to do the job properly.

If you’re getting down in a hot tub or pool, the water treatment chemicals may break down your rubber’s latex. Similarly, in a sudsy bathtub, the soap chemicals could do the same thing. And even if you’re sloshing around in pure H20 with no additives, the movement of sex could cause water to get into the condom, which could make it fall off. And, water washes off most lubricants, so the condom-sheathed dick would probably be causing uncomfortable friction anyhow.  

Now, if you’re engaging in safe sex for pregnancy AND std reasons (which I hope you are), non-condom birth control is not going to protect you from diseases or infections. There is no guarantee that the water is going to wash away the possibility of transmission, so don’t even think that way. Get yourself (and whoever your water-partner is) tested before the skinny-dipping commences.

xoxo,
Lucy

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